Light is always on the other side of darkness.
I find relief in the fact that neither positive nor negative experiences influence our level of happiness as much as we think. I’ve had many positive and negative experiences but some of the negative experiences can be overwhelming at times. But, without the negative, there cannot be the positive. Without dark, there cannot be light.
Many of my negative experiences result from circumstances beyond my control (let’s face it – we can’t control everything). But what about when my negative experiences are a result of my own actions? (Ouch!) My ego immediately tends to find reasons outside of myself to blame because this is difficult to accept. However, I must accept myself for what I am and for what I have done before I can change. This logic actually places more responsibility onto me, and gives me more control (confession – I tend to be a bit of a control freak).
Regardless of who’s fault, all of my negative experiences have led me to greater places. Growth is often painful but necessary. Each time I experience suffering in anyway, if I can accept the pain instead of fight it or try to escape it, I find that not only to I learn valuable lessons, but the pain literally strengthens me. It inevitably leads me to something unimaginably profound.